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Her Soul Supply

Love shouldn’t cost you your power.

I’m Fanny Tristan — a trauma therapist, women's empowerment coach, and the founder of Her Soul Supply. I help high-functioning Black and Brown women identify where they’ve been quietly giving their power away — in relationships, at work, within family systems, and in community — and learn how to reclaim it without becoming hardened, detached, or self-sacrificing. Most women don’t struggle with love.They struggle with knowing when love is costing them their agency.Through essays, workshops, and facilitated conversations, I explore how patriarchy, relational conditioning, and over-functioning show up in modern women’s lives — and what it actually takes to build intimacy, leadership, and connection without shrinking.If your audience is thoughtful, self-aware, and tired of advice that tells women to “heal more” instead of hold power differently, they’ll feel at home here.

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Featured Post

you’re not burnt out for the reason you think

1 min. read Ever since coming out of burnout recovery, I realized something. Taking everyone else’s advice for so long had put me in a position where I wasn’t even listening to myself anymore. And I see this pattern all the time — especially with high-achieving women. Especially with eldest daughters. The knee-jerk reaction is almost always the same: Learn more. Fix more. Do better. But almost never… slow down and actually listen to what your body and your life are trying to tell you. Because...

about 1 month ago • 2 min read

Hey Reader — I want to share a little of my “why” with you today. For a long time, I was caught in this cycle: Trying to prove I was “worthy” — of love, of belonging, of success. Trying to mold myself into what I thought other people wanted me to be. Trying to win at systems that weren’t built for me in the first place. I spent years chasing relationships where I constantly felt like I had to perform — like I had to shrink certain parts of myself to fit what someone else needed. If I could...

10 months ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader — Before you download another “how to date” checklist… Before you buy another “feminine energy” course… Let me say this: Your relationship with your own pleasure will take you farther than any dating advice. That’s why I do this work. At Her Soul Supply, I help single women of color reconnect with their bodies, their desires, and their worth — no performance required. And I recently got to speak on this very topic on the Please Me podcast — where we dove deep into: 🎙️ How to...

10 months ago • 1 min read